INFORMATION IS POWER

It has been a while since I sat down and wrote about something special. I have been too busy mopping around wishing for something good to come out of the worst situation I have ever been into but I have come to realize I have been doing nothing to get out of the mess.

I will always wake up each morning and look at myself in the mirror and say that this day is going to be a beautiful day. It is called exercising gratitude. We have all had a rough patch at some point in our lives. It comes a point where you feel like you have lost hope. Lost everything that matters in your life but the funny thing are that he best is yet to come. 

As I write this I have left the worst behind me and I know the best is yet to come. At times, forgiveness will make it easy to live, but letting go makes your mind forget things that hurt you the most. Learning to appreciate you is important. Don’t let someone else define what you should and shouldn’t do. Don’t call me a feminist but trust me we ladies tend to loss ourselves once we have a clique of girlfriends or boyfriends. We don't have to look up to anyone so as o be able to take the next step in life.

The day you realize that with time there is more to life than pleasing people around you then it is the day you learn what real living is all about. By consulting people on everything you need to do won’t really help you move forward. There is this famous saying a close friends like to use, “I jump and think of the consequences when I am mid-air”. With that philosophy she has achieved so much that only some dream to achieve at our age. 

It is the mistakes that the most famous investors and business people make in business that creates the empires that some we work for. Nothing is waterproof or air tight but by doing what we want to only do we perfect the art of doing and with that we learn to create less mistakes in our decisions.

Don’t be afraid to jump even if you don’t know what awaits you at the other end.  Consultations concerning your way of thinking will limit you to the other person’s limitations. And we all have our limitations, there is no one without. The difference is, my limitations are not your limitations. My shortcomings are not yours. So if someone offer you an advice on how to live, remember this, there advice is based on their own shortcomings. But a person who just gives you information, pros and cons, this is a person who you can work with in this journey called life.

I am in no position to advice you on the line to take. The course of your life I cannot map it for you, but by giving you pointers, a little bit of information on all directions, we brain storm together but you ultimately make your choice, then you are making the jump on your own. 

I am having fun as I write this. Reason, I am making a jump and I don’t know what awaits me at the other end. And I am having fun. Whatever comes my way, I will deal with as best as I know how and I am sure success is will be mine. After all, life is about taking chances and risks. There three kind of risk individuals, risk averse, risk neutral and risk lover. This is not limited to economics or finance but it extends to psychology.  This aspect is what determines the individuals we intent to become and I honestly think that risk lovers somehow always end up more victorious.

Information is power, I give it out to make a better you but I never give advice, it may fail to work for you and you end up blaming me and hence I loss a friend. That is the last thing I want to do. Losing you, my friend.

PRIDE COMES BEFORE A FALL

Well Kenyatta University was not a bad place to be. It taught me a lot of things concerning life, school, and working and not to forget how to hustle. It is not easy for an individual to wake up one day and see all the things they hoped for crumple right in front of their eyes. As they say sometimes karma is a bitch. Kenyatta University played this tune of life daily. Though not only on me but to other people as well. It is a valuable thing I learnt and I want to share it with my friends today.

I was woken up today. I am not used to that. Yeah, an alarm clock is fine to wake me up but not a phone call. So after I sought out whatever it is I was told to I went back to bed. I wake up an hour later. A few minutes later, I break the handle of the toilet and now I am stuck with a functionless toilet handle. An hour passes by and I decide to take a shower, a few minutes later, I find myself on the floor. As if the day couldn’t get any worse.

It has been a few hours since the incidences and between them and now, I have lost a lot. Plans made have just been flushed down the damn broken toilet. The heart aches so does my back and my right leg. 

Promises have been broken since then. The promises we make should mean something to you. Don’t say them just because you can. It started like a bad day. It was a bad day. Sometimes I don’t take things lightly. So much broken things and hurting bones I should have read the signs.

You may say or call me superstitious but to some extent I am. I am not going to deny that. It is what makes me know when I am about to lose and what I am about to gain. Today hurting bones and broken toilets and basins are just a reminder that I have lost more than some small replaceable things.

It gives the meaning to an inability to forgive. I think I may never forgive again. I think I am done with forgiveness. Sometimes, just being too forgiving is not the best thing at all for us. Yeah, the bible says we forgive seventy seven times seven times but I think this time I shouldn’t forgive because it is not going to be straight forward for me for a few days or weeks or months or even years.

I might have some aching body parts but your friends shouldn’t make it hard for you to be friends with them. Pride comes before a fall, so when making promises be sure that you are going to be keeping them.

Unconditional love or forgiveness is what I have been practicing. The positive and negative results cannot compare. Negative outweigh the positive. Sticking to those who matter the most may be good but they turn on you faster than you think. Success at times can make a person proud and feel like they own the world, feel like they can walk all over other people, make one feel like breaking promises is something they can just do without consequence or feel like they can just chew people up and spit them whenever the can. 

A little money does not make it alright to hurt people. There are times we as humans make the mistake that cannot be reversed and when we do we forget that it is us who bare those consequences that come with those mistakes. I am carrying my own cross as we speak; I hope when your time comes you will not want to dump it on someone. Always remember that money, pride do not make a person any greater, it is what leads to most of the mistakes you make in your life. 

I am grateful that whatever mistakes I made because I was proud taught me that pride comes before a fall. The last thing you would want is that kind of learning. It hurts because it is when you really have to admit to yourself that you are not all knowing or so bright after all.That is hard to admit trust me.

IT OUGHT TO BE A PLACE OF REFUGE.

The common idea of love and friendship is:

 

Have you have had a pair of shoes, jeans, shorts or a t-shirt, shirt or top that was so old, torn, ugly and worn out that you never seemed to want to through it away no matter what? We all have had such. Mine was a pair of blue flat shoes that had some three strands of silver chains on each show. In short the shoes were cute and girly.

I remember clearly that my sister threw those shoes away when I went to town and I got pretty upset with her when I found out what she did. The old item that u love may be at times a bad habit, a weird relationship and even some weird character that one possesses.

I have to admit those old things signified a lot even in ones personal life. May be you want to give up on a relationship that you feel is not leading you anywhere. Or of course want to reduce on partying and drinking. These come with a lot of will power and determination.

We have to agree that after sometime fighting to keep what you want may not be worth at all. It is just quick cement, sand or mad that just dries so fast the moment you step on it or it just wants to sink you so fast that you don’t realize what is happening. After all is LOVE NOT WAR?

By the time you awaken your senses you usually so dried up or in too deep that you just want to give up and stay in that state. It is like when you innocently wish someone a nice day or month and all they say is a sinister or sarcastic thing behind it. When will you just wake up and say enough is enough to all those dull, boring, worn out issues in your life? 

Why is it that woman are is said to be disrespectful to their men in public yet in private the men hurl demeaning insults and some go to the extent of even hitting those women like they are a bag of maize? It comes a time when people have just let go and move on. If it is love, you know love is respectful, does not hurt, does not engage in cold war, does not insult. Love is seeing beyond ones pride and ego and accepts that it comes hand in hand with understanding and maturity. 

Love and friendship should not be a place you judged first, alienated first, got tired of by your friend. It should be a place where patience is exercised, place where freedom of expression is practiced, and a place where no judgement is passed long before even a minute has gone by.

Love does not put a line between man issues and lady issues. It combines them. It keeps them together. It provides a place of escape from those lines set by the society. It is where one can feel vulnerable and not feels exposed. It provides a place away from judgement. A place of refuge from the anger expressed to gender. It should be a place were one should feels needed, wanted despite their shortcomings and imperfections.

Be the source of all that. The last thing a person wants is to come to is anger, hurt, pain, alienation. Be the person who provides an escape and refuge from all that. Be the last person to give the man-woman line reason. Be the person who removes the distinction in existence.

THE ROLE MODELS

Today I was so engrossed in reading the girl who played with fire, a sequel to the novel the girl with the dragon tattoo and I wished I had half the guts Lisbeth had. Too bad the writer of the novel died after issuing three manuscripts of the Lisbeth. It would have been a wonderful and thrilling series of books. 

Anyway I do hope you have had an excellent day. So I was thinking about the heroes and heroines in our lives. So you have one? We do need to because they help set a trend for us to follow. They become the people who look up to. 

They give us a way in which we can identify with. They give us the opportunity to believe in possibilities and that the world is not doomed as at times we tend to think. I was reading a story of a graduate who has send 300 applications and has never got any regret note or anything of the sort. In as much I can identify with him, he gives me the hope and need of not giving up.

We will need to look into the strength that we need to develop and harness with time. Life doesn’t become easier as we grow things get more challenging and complicated with time. It is when we grow up we realize that the world is not in black and white but a spectrum of multicolor. 

They say shades of grey, black, blue but whatever mixture of these shades don’t let them confuse you. They are there to train you on the different aspects that life challenges present. They make you toughen up. Groom you for the future. Make you the stronger. Reminds me of the song that Kelly Clarkson released last year, what does not kill you make you stronger.

This is true to every last dot. It makes you stronger and a hard nut to crack and that is what makes you the future hero or heroine for other sons and daughters. I am in this situation where those words are being put to the test and I am hoping that at the end I will emerge victorious.

No matter what issues you might face today, this is just the foundation, a stepping stone to the best you will achieve. I believe in things getting better. I am the person who believes getting things through the law of attraction. It may be put to test like mine has been put to but success is what I need most.

Everyone needs success. Be it financially, relationship wise or whatever thing you want to obtain success in. At the end of the day, it is that person who you take for as a role model who will guide you in the darkest, and provide you with the “moral” support you will need when the going gets tough.

By the way, in this process, I am looking for a person to give us an article in my blog. You can write something and sent in to me in the email: agnesmutua@hotmail.com. The best article will be published as a guest blogger. The offer is valid till Sunday, 26^th May.

I believe in giving a platform in which my readers can express themselves to me and the rest of the article. I may not have an award to give the reader but with time I am sure this will be a perfect time to share your knowledge with the world.

DON’T BLAME YOURSELF INTO GIVING UP.

 

I lacked sleep the other night but yesterday I slept like a baby. It feels so good getting such a goodnight rest. Maybe its because I was thinking too much unnecessarily but truth be told sometimes thinking too much about issues is not the best way of handling a matter after all it won’t even solve it.

So as we grow up we learn about the things we need to take blame and the things we need to let go sooner or later. At times it is good to just be clear about when you want out of a relationship, a job or even a life.

You know when a friend hurts you may not come as a surprise to you anyway you need to trust them but give them that percentage of doubt that they can hurt you hundred folds over than an acquaintance.

As we grow up we come to the point where you may start to think that you have no enough friends, you don’t go out often enough, you are stay in the house for too long (I am a culprit of staying in the house too much that when I walk for long distances my muscles strain) or that you got so few friends that the fingers are quite huge number. 

I may not know what you can be going through right now but the fact it at times you need to just awaken your mind and you too and smell the coffee dear. It is time you stood up by your beliefs and don’t let them weak so as to accommodate a person or a thing that is not worth you.

A beautiful thing worth of you takes you for who you are. It never tries to change you. It understands you and your feelings. It understands your emotions. It understands your independence. It accords you respect even in private.  What is the point of respecting you in public but the highest disrespect in the world is it accords you in private?

As I write this my best friend from way back then in primary school just called me and reminded me that whatever is in your mind is what you get. So think of getting something beautiful by your side today and it will so be. As I write this I have already set a miracle aside in my head and I am sure it will come true.

The beauty about life is not about how beautiful or handsome you are. It is about having beautiful things surround you. Be it be a loving respecting relationship, a good stress free job, a successful business, a nice hobby you like doing so much, a beautiful family all these things make it worth living.

Giving up should never be an alternative because by doing this you will always end up blaming yourself. Accepting what is less and below your standards is you should never blame anyone else rather than you. But let’s say you have already done that, blamed yourself, what is next? Are you going to wallow in disappointment and hate it all attitude towards life? Towards everything and everyone?

You wake up, dust yourself up, hold your head up high and take the first step towards recovery. Talk to people don’t vent on social media, we don’t want to know every little thing about your personal life. Talk to a therapist if you have one, your mama she is the best, she knows this process too well than most of us or someone who is never going to betray you. 

I may not be the best in giving advice, but for me the best therapy for the first step towards freedom is writing and blogging. Find something that will eventually help you in taking that next step towards freedom, towards beauty, towards living full.

After all, what is life if it isn’t beautiful?